Thursday, February 9, 2012

Third Edition: New Mama Questions

Here we are again for more advice from the lovely mama's in blog world! :) I am soaking it all in these past few weeks as we wait anxiously for Baby Jude to come!


Here are my questions for today....

1. Best Advice you received concerning Mamahood (on sleep, breast-feeding, whatever....)
2. Any practical tips for a sleeping schedule/what has worked or hasn't worked?

Thanks so much for helping this Mama-to-Be prepare! I am so thankful for the wisdom of bloggers, friends and family in this season of my life. God is so good to give us ladies 10 months of preparing for a baby... he knows we need time! :)

14 Beautiful comments!:

Jenni Larson said...

1) Don't worry to much. If you're not stressed out, your baby wnt be stressed out.
2) When you do decide to get on a schedule (3-6 months) don't be afraid to let your baby cry. It's new to them, it will take a little getting use to, but they will be ok.

Nikki said...

HI Ria,
A great book that my husband and I read was, Growing Kids God's Way, it was super helpful in getting our baby girl on a schedule! Of course there are things that we did differently then the book, but it was great help! Probably the most helpful advice was waking your baby up to eat every 2-3 hours during the day so they eat more and sleep longer at night;) IT was hard work when all she wanted to do was sleep, but she started sleeping like 6 hour stretches at night by 6-7weeks old. You are going to do great!!!!
Nikki

Morgan said...

I didn't realize how long it's been since I last visited your blog! Congratulations on your soon-to-arrive baby boy!!! I'm so excited for you!!!

Jessica said...

Two great books - Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child and The Happiest Baby on the Block. Healthy Sleep Habits was our sleeping bible for the kids (who are all awesome sleepers because of it!), and the Happiest Baby is a great tool for showing you how to soothe your baby, both when their crabby and when you start a routine for getting them to sleep (which is right away!). We swaddled our kids with arms in until they were about 5 months old. It really helps them to sleep longer and more soundly. And makes mamas and papas happier, too :) Enjoy this sweet time!

Meredith said...

One of the most helpful pieces of advice I was given regarding a sleep schedule was to help your little one figure out their days/nights....so for middle of the night feedings keep the lights low, low noise (no TV, etc.) They're able to figure out night vs. day pretty quickly if you help distinguish it for them. When my son would wake up in the middle of the night to eat, I would feed him and he would fall right back to sleep within minutes because he knew that it was "night-time". I also think that really helped with him sleeping through the night too. Good Luck!

Alyssa said...

1). When it comes to breast feeding, just relax. If you stress over it while doing it, it only makes it harder and don't freak out about everything that happens to your baby or things your baby does. Freaking out only makes parenthood that much more stressful.

2). We are still trying to get Sadie on a sleep schedule but routine is key. Do the same consist thing when putting him to bed, like a bath and then a book and then feeding or something like that. It has helped Sadie so much because we finally have her sleeping through the night!

Callie Nicole said...

The best advice I recieved is to just enjoy the newborn snuggles, because they grow SO. FAST. And soon they'll be wriggling and moving all over, and you'll miss the snuggles.

That above advice also made me sad to think that my baby would grow so fast, so I'll follow it up with words from my mom - each different stage is SO FUN, and there is something special about every stage! So just soak it all up.

Wendy said...

I read the book Baby Wise before having our babies and it was a great help. I didn't follow everything they said, but it was a great help in getting my kids on a schedule from the start. They were always great sleepers because of that!

Natalie said...

I think one of the most helpful pieces of advice for me was to hear not to worry about every little thing. I worried SO much about getting her on a schedule right away that I felt I was doing everything completely wrong! It became apparent around 2 months when she totally fell into it on her own!!! :)
As far as sleeping schedule-I read Babywise and I have kind of a love/hate relationship with it, haha! I think that is why I stressed, because I wasn't doing it exactly like they said. But that being said, their approach to eat/play/sleep cycle is a really good one and helped her to get on a schedule with sleeping & feeding!

Shannon said...

Your first few weeks, Jude will be sleeping a lot and you'll probably be feeding him around every three hours. I was fine with that for awhile, but when Judah got to be about 6 weeks old, I was ready for some longer stretches of sleep. He was sleeping through the entire night by 8 weeks. I think like some of the ladies above, it helped that we made sure he knew the difference between night and day. During the day, there will be noises, light, and you'll be playing and talking. We would try to follow the eat-play-sleep cycle and it worked great.

But at nighttime, keep the lights very low, no loud noises, and put them right back to bed after a nighttime feeding. The last feeding before bedtime I always do with no tv on and in a dim room. Judah knows it's time to sleep and he's ready for bed! And swaddling will keep him sleeping longer too.

As for breastfeeding, I was always stressed that I wasn't doing something right or that I wouldn't have enough milk. I left the hospital in tears because I was so nervous about it! Looking back, it does take some time to learn but if you want to stick with it, you can do it! Find someone you know who has done it and ask questions. And expect it to be a bit uncomfortable at first - trust me, your body will adjust and it will not hurt for long. And most important - if you decide that it's not for you - that's OK! Your baby will do just great no matter how mommy decides to feed him. By the way, breastfeeding does wonders for helping you lose your baby weight! :)

Katie said...

Don't beat yourself up for decisions you have to make. I was devastated when breastfeeding didn't work for us, and I spent a lot of time feeling like a horrible mother. But soon I realized that a baby on formula with a sane mother was better for Cal than being on pumped milk with a crazy mother who never slept.
Something you decide will probably make you feel guilty, but just realize that it's okay and feeling guilty is part of the mommy package. And I'm always here to talk if you need to vent!

Lauren said...

Several of my friends recommended BabyWise and there is all sorts of conflicting discussions on BabyWise, and let me tell you I DID NOT follow it down to every detail. I also seem to have just a very, very good baby who only cries when she's hungry and for the most part seems to sleep when she wants. In the beginning just don't stress about it, I was kind of schedule crazy & let's be honest, a newborn is NOT going to be on a schedule. I did wake Elyse every 3 hours for the first 2 weeks until we got approval from our pediatrician to let her go as long as she wanted during the night...but I still wake her every three hours even now. This has put her on a pretty consistent 3-hour schedule, except for the last 2 days of course but I think she's going through a growth spurt because she just wants to eat!!!!
Just know that no matter what book you read, you won't be able to match your baby to the book...just do the best you can and know that that is the BEST you can do! Jude will figure things out and you guys will learn each other in time which will eventually result in some good night's sleep!

Kellie Ernst said...

if you decide to breast feed, make a goal to do it for 2 weeks at least. it is painful when you first start but after 2 weeks it starts to get easier and less painful.

MegsM said...

Yes. Baby Wise is amazing. Eliza was sleeping through the night at 7 weeks.. and this is important to me b/c I have to go back to work!!! No staying at home for me! :( Anyway, It is amazing for momma's rest and rest assured... my baby girl had NO negative side effects from "Crying it out." Quite the contrary. She is so smart!! :) (ok probably not from that.. :) ) And of course, also use your mommy judgement. :)